Nepotism for me has impacted me very negativity since my own family hurt me outside in public. While growing up I witnessed my mother bashing me in front of her family, relatives, and friends. I never understood what she was trying to get out of bashing me! Even till today I do NOT understand what my mother got out of publicly humiliating. I always wondered how me being born with hypoxia to my brain was my fault?? Hypoxia is when you do NOT get enough OXYGEN to a certain part of your body which leads that part to getting damaged.
During my BIRTH I did NOT get enough OXYGEN to the left side of my brain which lead me to having a LANGUAGE LEARNING DISABILITY. Thus, I had a hard time learning how to communicate and understanding language while growing up. My mother blamed me for all of this my whole life. She also said I caused her pain before I was born. Now imagine being told by your mother that you are the reason behind all her problems! That is the most painful thing anyone can ever hear from their mother. People always sympathized with my mother since they ONLY heard one side of the story which was her side. They NEVER cared for my side since the culture they are from is the Indian/ Pakistani culture. In that culture people believe everything parents speak about their children even if the parents are WRONG.
Favoritism I have witnessed through my dad where even though I was willing to work with him at his HOTEL but since he had a negative and biased point view about me he NEVER gave me an OPPORTUNITY to work for him. Recently, few weeks ago the man who cleans my house was OVER cleaning our house and my brother told him “if you your daughter needs a JOB I can get my mentor to give her a JOB”. My question is that when my brother knows I need a JOB why can’t he help me find a JOB?? Does he NOT see that his OWN sister needs HELP finding a JOB?? In fact, I have a degree in Psychology and I also minored in Business Management compared to our cleaning man’s daughter who does NOT even have a degree.
I am NOT saying that I expect anything from my dad, mother, or brother. I am just saying that can they NOT see that a little support can actually help me get far?? In fact, I am NOT even asking them for any money I am just wishing that they would realize that a little help and support can get me far in life. Thus, Nepotism and Favoritism is NOT always a good thing sometime it can have negative impacts on an individual’s life.
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